10 TIPS TO MANAGE STRESS

We all have stress in our lives. Some stress adds flavor, challenge, and excitement.
Too much stress, however, can cause problems. Here are 10 techniques to help you manage stress.
1. Learn To Relax
Throughout the day, take mini-breaks. Sit down and get comfortable. Slowly take a deep breath in, hold it, and then exhale very slowly. At the same time, let your shoulder muscles droop and relax your body. Visualize a pleasant, restful scene and say something positive like I am relaxed.

2. Practice Acceptance
Many people get distressed over things they feel they can’t accept. Often these are things that are not under their control, like someone else’s feelings, beliefs, or behavior. Try to let go of things over which you have no control, and see how much lighter your feel.

3. Talk Rationally To Yourself
Ask yourself what real impact the stressful situation will have on you in a day or a week. Are you feeling aggravated by a temporary situation? Try to imagine how large this problem will loom given the passage of time.

4. Get Organized
Develop a realistic schedule of daily activities that includes time for work, sleep, relationships, and recreation. Use a daily To Do list to help you use your time and energy as efficiently as possible. Improve your physical surroundings by cleaning your room and work area.

5. Try Physical Activity
Physical activity has been proven to provide relief from stress. Develop a regular exercise program to help reduce the effects of stress before it becomes dis tress. Try walking, aerobics, jogging, dancing, swimming–any physical activity you enjoy will work.

6. Reduce Time Urgency
Practice the notion of  pace, not race. If you frequently check your watch or worry about being late, allow more time than you think you will need to get things done. The reduction in the amount of stress you feel as you go through your daily tasks will be a reward in itself.

7. Don’t Dwell on Contrasts.
Competition breeds stress. Learn to notice the similarities between yourself and others rather than the differences. In so doing, you will replace separateness, greed, and jealousy with compassion, connectedness, and harmony.

8. Balance Work and Fun.
Balance school and work demands with some fun and private time. Hobbies are good antidotes for daily pressures. Unwind by taking a quiet stroll, watching a sunset, enjoying time spent with friends or simple activities.

9. Watch Your Habits.
Eat sensibly – a balanced diet will provide all the necessary energy you will need during the day. Avoid non-prescription drugs and minimize your alcohol use – you need to be mentally and physically alert to deal with stress. Be mindful of the effects of excessive caffeine on nervousness.

10. Talk To Friends.
Friends can be good medicine. Daily doses of conversation, regular social engagements, and occasional sharing of deep feelings and thoughts can reduce stress quite nicely.

7 Attitudes & Behaviors of Successful People

All successful people have a vision defined for their life and a clear understanding of how their work will help them create the life they want. These individuals exhibit seven behavioral traits. These traits are:

Selfishness: Successful people are selfish. Selfishness is good and is a behavior that allows them to protect their time, energy and money. Since they know where they are going and what they must do, they know the people they need to meet and the actions that will take them where they want to go. They know that time is a precious commodity and there are only so many hours in a day. They use this time wisely.

Focus: Successful people are focused. Being focused is like being a marathon runner. They continually put one foot in front of the other and know they have specific actions they must do to finish the job at hand (finish the race). They stay focused on those actions.

Discipline: Successful people are disciplined. They do not lose site of where they are going or how they are going to get there. They walk away from or delay activities that do not take them where they want to go. They develop routines that become habits and they are disciplined in those routines.

Persistent: Successful people are persistent. They know where they are going and they do not quit. They may be stymied or delayed but they find away around each obstacle. They try again and approach obstacles from different directions until they find what works, but they do not quit.

Responsible: Successful people are responsible for their actions and the results they get. They know they control the outcome through their behavior. If things are not working they know that they came change their behavior and move towards the desired outcome. They also know that they need others to be successful and they are quick to give credit to others as they achieve success.

Results Oriented: Successful people are results oriented. They understand that the only thing that counts are results. They make no excuses. They know there is no such thing as trying, only doing. You get the job done or you do not.

People Oriented: A common trait of successful people is that they understand their success is dependent upon how well they motivate, inspire, lead, manage, sell and communicate to others their ideas, vision, thoughts, and action.

How many of the attitudes and behaviors are you using? Honestly ask yourself if you are using all seven and if you are not happy with the answer, put a plan is place to begin using these new behaviors.

Good Luck!

40 RULES FOR LIVING

1. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
2. Memorize your favorite poem.
3. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
4. When you say, “I love you,” mean it.
5. When you say, “I’m sorry,” look the person in the eye.
6. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams.
7. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.
8. Don’t judge people by their relatives.
9. Talk slow but think quick.
10. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, “Why do you want to know?”
11. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
12. Call your mom.
13. Say “Bless you” when you hear someone sneeze.
14. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
15. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.
16. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
17. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
18. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
19. Marry someone you love to talk to. As you get older, conversational skills will be as important as any other.
20. Spend some time alone.
21. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
22. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
23. Read more books and watch less TV.
24. Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll get to enjoy it a second time.
25. Trust in God but lock your car.
26. A loving atmosphere in your home is so important. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.
27. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
28. Read between the lines.
29. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
30. Be gentle with the earth.
31. Pray — there’s immeasurable power in it.
32. Never interrupt when you are being flattered.
33. Mind your own business.
34. Don’t trust a lover who doesn’t close his/her eyes when you kiss them.
35. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
36. If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth’s greatest satisfaction.
37. Learn the rules then break some.
38. Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.
39. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
40. Remember that your character is your destiny.

Who are better friends ?

Who are better friends; Men or Woman ?

* Women:*

A wife was not at home for a whole night.

So, the next morning, she tells her husband that

she stayed at her friend’s apartment overnight.

The husband calls 10 of her best girlfriends, and none of them confirm that.

* Men:*

A husband was not at home for a whole night. So he tells his wife the next morning, that he stayed at his friend’s apartment overnight.

So the wife calls 10 of his best friends : 5 of them confirmed that he stayed at their apartments that night, and the other 5 are claiming that he still is there with them !

IT IS DIFFICULT BUT CHALLENGING

To Appreciate : When others are criticizing
To Build : When others are destroying
To Co-operate : When others are resisting
To Decide : When others are misguiding
To Expedite : When others are delaying
To Forgive : When others are revenging
To Give : When others are refusing
To Help : When others are promising
To Ignore : When others are condemning
To Justify : When others are disputing
To be Kind : When others are cursing
To Lead : When others are confusing
To Motivate : When others are discouraging
To Neglect : When others are disturbing
To Oblige : When others are hesitating
To Participate : When others are avoiding
To Question : When others are dictating
To Respect : When others are complaining
To Serve : When others are despairing
To Think over : When others are advising
To Unite : When others are dispersing
To Verify : When others are doubting
To Work : When others are postponing
To Xerox truth : When others are hiding
To Yield no hatred : When others are harming
To Zeal & Console : When others are depressing

LET US CONCLUDE THAT IF WE ADHERE TO ABOVE ETICS, OUR EFFORTS SHALL BE SATISFYING & REWARDING.

Twenty Time Savers

1. Learn to set priorities on things like goals, tasks, meeting agenda items, interruptions.
2. Start with “A-priority” tasks; is it the best use of your time?
3. Fight procrastination; do it now if it’s important.
4. Subdivide large, tough tasks into smaller, easily accomplished parts.
5. Establish a quiet hour, even though it requires will power and may not always work.
6. Find a hideaway. The library or office of a co-worker who’s traveling.
7. Learn to say “no” when you’ve got something important to do.
8. Learn to delegate.
9. Accumulate similar tasks and do them all at one time.
10. Minimize routine tasks; spend only the time they deserve. Shorten low-value interruptions. Throw away junk mail and other low-value paperwork. Delegate, shorten or defer indefinitely the C-priority tasks.
11. AVOID PERFECTIONISM..
12. Avoid over-commitment. Be realistic about what you can do in the time you have.
13. Don’t over-schedule. Allow some flexible time for crises and interruptions.
14. Set time limits. For example, some decisions shouldn’t take more than three minutes to make. Know how to recognize these.
15. Concentrate on what you are doing.
16. Use big blocks of time for big jobs.
17. Do difficult things quickly; waiting doesn’t make them easier.
18. Try to handle paper only once.
19. Think the job through before acting.
20. Finish as you go; get it right the first time.